I’ve always enjoyed collecting things — tiny stones and vintage picture books, silk scarves and handmade earrings. I didn’t realize how little time I’ve had to care for my small collections, until I returned from Vietnam. Always ready to pack my belongings into portable suitcases, I’d forgotten about them. It never takes me long to pick out what I need, pack, and leave. The hardest part, the part I haven’t quite mastered, is staying.
When I was 17 and leaving home after graduation, I asked my parents to keep my room. It’d be too sad to come home to my parent’s place one day, and realize I no longer had a place there. And throughout my travels and life abroad, knowing that I had a semi-permanent homebase and a stable mailing address was a source of comfort. I’d come home with all my battered suitcases, put them down, and fall asleep in my tiny bed, surrounded by things I’d collected. But I knew that I didn’t really live there anymore.
Like the second-coming of Jacques Lacan’s mirror stage, the realization tastes bittersweet. My childhood bedroom is slowly getting emptied out, with my books in boxes and everything else in donation bags. But it’s a brand new start.
Some nice things from the Laura Ashley catalog. I’d like some cozy blankets and hot chocolate mugs!
It’s been stressful yet rewarding to find a home and move into my new place in New York. Besides dealing with brokers and applications, I was totally stumped when I realized I needed to find my own furniture. I’d gotten used to moving into pre-furnished places. When it comes down to it, choosing good bedroom furniture can make a difference. I don’t own very much yet, but I have a big comfy bed with a memory foam mattress topper.
I’m starting to really feel at home here. I already have two little house plants, though no wall art yet. My friend Amanda also just moved into a new place, and she’s been posting some fun DIY projects. I’ve never reupholstered furniture, but she makes it look so easy and colorful. I’m really looking forward to working on apartment projects this autumn.
P.S. Please do share if you have any advice for making a new place feel more like home.